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A reason to change your partner seems like just another way to arrange your priorities.
Growing old comes together with the appearance of new, empty, personality-slots.
The slots that needed filling in your teenage hood, while the act itself remains in regular and honest demand, seem to have lost their persuading ability in the partner-decision process by the time you reach your late twenties. The same can appear in a regular basis even until the end of you, especially if you are the Darwinian type of person.

Now, say that your partner is also of the Darwinian type. If by evolving they become capable of filling the newly appeared slots for each era, then you’ve hit the jack pot. And we know what the odds for that are.

In all other cases, including the dreadful evolutionary scenario in which the partner mutated from a happy silly monkey to a sewer resident rat, instead of a happy wise monkey, the new slots scream like hungry babies, they need feeding, they need attention and any parent can explain to you how inevitably this changes priorities.

My question: Can a friend fill these slots? If yes, why not let the old silly monkey fill the slots it has been filling for all this time (having been chosen in the first place means it is doing a pretty good job) and let the friend take care of the new ones? No such friend? Try mingle.

 

I wonder, whether ‘why bother’ is an option in this case…

Soundtrack: ‘Sugar Daddy’, Laika